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		<title>Dare to Fail</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 31 Dec 2011 10:53:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ash Menon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Think you know the best ways to succeed? I've got a better one: falling flat on your face. Sometimes the very failures that you're trying to avoid are the key to your success.


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<p>Look at the image above. Majestic, isn’t it? He’s spreading his powerful wings and soaring across the sky, confident in his own ability to fly. But where does he get that confidence? No bird is born KNOWING how to fly; otherwise we’d see chicks fluttering all over the place as soon as they hatched.</p>
<p>The truth is simple, yet amazingly profound: every bird learns how to fly because it dares to fall.</p>
<p>When you think about it, it’s actually quite mind-numbing. Falling doesn’t just mean being hurt; for a young chick high up in a tree, falling means the absolute and final end. And yet it is willing to risk its very life to learn how to soar the skies.</p>
<p>I bet you’re never going to look at any bird again without a sense of awe, are you?</p>
<p>In your life, you may not have such a huge risk involved in any one move you make (and if you do, please don’t make that move simply because I told you to. I’d hate to find out I caused the death of one my readers). But you may have some secret goal or desire that you’ve been holding dear in your heart; a wish that you don’t dare express or reach for because you fear the consequences of failure.</p>
<p>Here’s what I think: you can only be considered to have failed <em><strong>if you&#8217;ve stopped trying to succeed</strong></em>.</p>
<p>There is nothing wrong in falling flat on your face the first time you do something. Many geniuses of our world have failed miserably during their first few attempts before succeeding in what made them famous in the first place. Thomas Edison, inventor of the light-bulb, once famously said: “I haven&#8217;t failed, I&#8217;ve found 10,000 ways that don&#8217;t work.” In fact, I highly recommend reading some other quotes of his <a href="http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Thomas_Edison" target="_blank">here</a> (and perhaps keep one or two of them near you as inspiration).</p>
<p>I wrote an article previously about how bad design is good for you (which you can read <a href="http://www.ashmenon.com/why-bad-design-is-good-for-you/" target="_blank">here</a> ). While I wrote that in the context of design, the message is applicable across the board: failure is a much better teacher than success. Although I’ve never seen any proof of this, I’m absolutely certain that the ancient Greek civilization (and other cultures who celebrated learning) had no negative perception regarding failure. I think they would have seen it as a necessary step to learn something new. It’s just that in our present world, failure is seen as something bad, something negative, something to be avoided at all costs. While some failures are indeed bad, for the most part, failure is more profitable than success.</p>
<p>Every one of you is amazing. Every one of you is a phenomenal success waiting to happen. But that can only happen when you dare to be a phenomenal failure first.</p>


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		<title>Thoughts on Finding Your Optimum Schedule</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 17 Oct 2011 02:17:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ash Menon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As I'm typing this, I'm behind in my tasks for 3 days. I've not slept in 24 hours, and sounds are slightly dulled. I also may or may not be dying from an overdose of caffeine.


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<p>As I&#8217;m typing this, I&#8217;m behind in my tasks for 3 days. I&#8217;ve not slept in 24 hours, and sounds are slightly dulled. I also may or may not be dying from an overdose of caffeine.</p>
<p>When I first started managing my own time (after leaving a 9-5 job), I was doing regular daylight hours without problem. But I noticed that as time passed by, I was working later and later. I decided to switch to a night-time schedule. I would wake up at around 3 in the evening, have what might be referred to as lunch, get some miscellaneous tasks done, and then start work at around 10 in the night, until about 6 the next morning, at which point I&#8217;d have myself a good breakfast, relax for a little bit, and then head to bed.</p>
<p>It was the perfect life. I was at the peak of my efficiency, even more so considering how few disturbances happen at 3 in the morning. I could avoid working during the hottest times of the day (it can get pretty bad here, and the abundance of concrete around my house isn&#8217;t helping), and work when it&#8217;s nice and cool and quiet. My perfect environment. Anyone I needed to talk to was an email away, and I could interact with my family during the evenings anyway.</p>
<p>Problem is, I could never maintain it for longer than a week. The weekend would come and there&#8217;d be some plan made for the morning, and I&#8217;d force myself to stay awake for longer than I usually do. I&#8217;d then end up looking like something the cat dragged in. The cycle would be utterly destroyed, and I&#8217;d lose a day or two worth of productivity.</p>
<p>It also doesn&#8217;t help that my workload is very fluid; there are times when I&#8217;m free enough to relax and curl up with a good book, and there are times when I don&#8217;t have time to breathe. Don&#8217;t get me wrong, I love the job. I love the adrenaline rush of the deadlines and the last-minute scrambles. It&#8217;s why I got into this line in the first place. But the fluidity of it makes it challenging to plan a routine, especially where sleep is concerned.</p>
<p>If you were reading this hoping to find some pointers on how to manage your own time, I&#8217;m going to have to disappoint you. It&#8217;d be hypocritical of me to give tips on scheduling when I&#8217;m still finding solid ground. I CAN, however, tell you a few things I&#8217;ve learned along the way:</p>
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<li>Give yourself breathing space. If your brain tells you &#8216;but you can do more on that day, I think you can schedule a few more tasks in&#8217;, do NOT listen to it.</li>
<li>Accept that life is like a giant out-of-control machine that&#8217;s throwing wrenches all over the place, and that chances are one of those wrenches is going to destroy your perfect, shiny, schedule.</li>
<li>What works for everyone else may not work for you. And what works for you may not be what everyone else approves of.</li>
<li>If you schedule, schedule <strong>EVERYTHING</strong>. Work, fun, social activities, family, even periods of stillness. Otherwise you can be certain that some things are going to fall to the side.</li>
<li>The act of delaying one scheduled task to make way for another is not something that should be done lightly. If you get into the habit of it, it&#8217;s as good as not having a schedule at all.</li>
<li>If your work is not finished within the time you&#8217;ve allocated, it is not a failure. It is simply a lesson learnt. Make a note of it, schedule in some extra time down the road (maybe the next day) to finish it, and if you&#8217;re doing it again in the future, remember to schedule more time for it in the first place.</li>
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<p>And for those of you who are new to the crazy world of scheduling, I have some sagely advice for you: you are going to make mistakes. You are going to overschedule. You are going to crash and burn. Repeatedly. And painfully. It&#8217;s part of the learning process, and you&#8217;ll emerge on the other side a better person for it. Trust me.</p>
<p>Now if you&#8217;ll excuse me, I&#8217;ve some catching up to do.</p>


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		<pubDate>Sun, 09 Oct 2011 05:53:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ash Menon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Do you have that one friend? You know the one I&#8217;m talking about. The one that always complains and whines about everything, from airport delays to food service to his job. You&#8217;ve not heard him say anything good in a long time. Anything you bring up in a conversation is met with a barrier of [...]


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<p>Do you have that one friend?</p>
<p>You know the one I&#8217;m talking about. The one that always complains and whines about everything, from airport delays to food service to his job. You&#8217;ve not heard him say anything good in a long time. Anything you bring up in a conversation is met with a barrier of scepticism. I&#8217;ve got a few friends like that, and I once asked one of them about their attitude. His response was that he&#8217;s been through a hard life and he&#8217;s known hardship that I couldn&#8217;t even imagine, and so the scepticism and cynicism are necessary walls of self-defence.</p>
<p>Absolute and utter <strong>bullshit</strong>.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t believe what these people are saying for one second. No matter how hard one person&#8217;s life is, there are always a hundred people somewhere in the world who have it harder than they do. Heck, considering the economic state of the world, the famine crisis in Somalia, and the natural disasters sweeping through so many parts of the earth, you could bump that number up to a million and still be accurate.</p>
<p>And secondly, strength isn&#8217;t about showing your scars to everyone and attempting to impress people with how much you&#8217;ve been through. That&#8217;s showmanship. Strength is holding your head high with a smile on your face after you&#8217;ve been through hell, knowing that you survived it and you came out a better person. It&#8217;s knowing that you&#8217;ve dealt with something so severe, and now you can deal with 99% of what life throws at you without batting an eyelid.</p>
<p>When people claim that hardship made them bitter, remember this: hardship made them <em>stronger</em>. THEY made themselves bitter.</p>
<p>You don&#8217;t need to surround yourself with showmanship. It does nothing for you, and in fact witnessing the constant never-ending drama is exhausting. Cut them out of your life, and surround yourself with people who are positive. Positive energy is beautiful in the sense that it multiplies when you share it. I made the change a few years back and I was amazed at how much of a difference it made in my life. Now whenever I see negativity around me, I move to cut it off.</p>
<p>So if you&#8217;re one of my friends and you&#8217;re wondering why I suddenly unfriended you on Facebook, now you know.</p>


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		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2011 10:34:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ash Menon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Productivity is good. More productivity is better.

That's what I usually preach on this blog, but sometimes we tend to lose track of why we want to be so productive in the first place. I believe that the reason we run so fast is so that we have time to enjoy standing still.


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<p>Productivity is a good thing. More productivity = better.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s what we&#8217;re taught. And here in this blog, I preach the same message. I talk about squeezing every possible minute out of your day, and about maintaining your peak efficiency for as long as possible to get as much done. I talk about keeping a clear view of your goals and objectives to motivate you through the hard days and prevent you from slacking.</p>
<p>Today I&#8217;m going to talk about <strong><em>why </em></strong>I stress so much on productivity. Growing up in an Asian country, it&#8217;s a common thing to see businessmen running around getting deals pushed, contracts made, and ideas sold. Sadly I&#8217;ve also noticed many times that these people are still working while gobbling down a quick dinner, or while they&#8217;re driving, or even while they&#8217;re half asleep.</p>
<p>I told myself when I grew up, I wasn&#8217;t going to be like that. I instead preferred to look at how the Buddhist monks view life. Every moment of life is precious, whether or not you gain something from it. Every breath you take is a miracle, whether or not you are aware of it. I found that on the occasional moments where I stopped to smell the roses, I was amazed at how beautiful the world is around me. And that&#8217;s what I aim for nowadays. I want to squeeze every last drop of productivity from my working hours, so that I can completely immerse myself into the moment when I&#8217;m not working. I want to slowly savour the flavours of the food I&#8217;m eating. I want to enjoy the sound of running water. I want to enjoy the company of the people around me, and truly listen to what they&#8217;re saying, and help them in any way I can.</p>
<p>And that is the point of my unusually short post today (this post sounds a little weird when I read it back to myself, but I think it&#8217;s partly because I&#8217;m not used to writing short articles. Hopefully this gets better soon). Connecting with the moment that you&#8217;re in is as important as getting everything done, because at the end of the day, life, and the living of it, should be your ultimate goal.</p>
<p>Now if you&#8217;ll excuse me, I think I shall go enjoy a nice relaxing nap.</p>


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Not today.


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I usually take time to write my posts. Being a timetable obsessed person, I plan when I’m going to write the draft, when I’m going to source for ideas, points, reference, etc, and even the various stages of completion.</p>
<p>Not today.</p>
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<p>To those of you who have enjoyed my blog and wondered about the dearth of content for some time, I must apologize. I could spout the various financial, career, medical, and social reasons for why I’ve been absent, but suffice to say my life, my work, and myself have gone through a major overhaul in this past-half year and some.</p>
<p>I will freely admit that my time management and scheduling skills are far from sturdy. I get highly motivated by planning out my time, and for the first few days I manage to get things done perfectly. Then life steps in, with its blasted interruptions, and my fragile hold on my time shatters. I go through a period of scrambling to put the pieces together, then I abandon those tasks I planned earlier and I create a new set, freshly motivated once more. It’s not a cycle that I am proud of, but it is one that I have come to accept.</p>
<p>This time I’m getting back on the wagon with a slightly different approach. Doubtless I am still going to make those tasks, and naturally the world will toss some inevitable disruptions my way, but instead of fretting about it, I am going to take it one step at a time. And for me, that includes writing a completely unplanned, unresearched, and unpolished post every once in a while. Sitting here right now, it’s a somewhat unnerving feeling, as I’m not exactly sure what to write. But I do know this, and it’s something I want to share with anyone who has felt the depression that falling off the wagon will bring:</p>
<p>There is nothing wrong in failing. There is nothing wrong in hitting rock bottom. There is nothing wrong in falling off the wagon, and having your entire life crumble around you while the world speeds past you. What IS wrong is not trying again. What IS wrong is not getting up after you hit rock bottom. What IS wrong is not picking up the pieces and rebuilding your life.</p>
<p>You only lose when you stop trying to win. And because of this, I know that even though I haven’t won yet, I will never lose. And I hope that I’ve inspired you to never lose, either.</p>
<p>Here’s to another round on the wagon. Cheers.</p>


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		<description><![CDATA[You. Yes, you. Reading this right now. Do you know someone awesome? Your mother who can handle a full time job and still make time to bake heavenly pies for the church sale? your colleague who seems to be able to juggle every task he has, remembers every detail about a project even from months ago, and still has the leisure to flirt on Facebook? well i want you to know this: I know someone awesome too.

You.


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<p>You. Yes, you. Reading this right now. Do you know someone awesome? Your mother who can handle a full time job and still make time to bake heavenly pies for the church sale? your colleague who seems to be able to juggle every task he has, remembers every detail about a project even from months ago, and still has the leisure to flirt on Facebook? well i want you to know this: I know someone awesome too.</p>
<p>You.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t know what you look like, what language you speak, or what you work as, but i know that you are awesome. That&#8217;s because inside every one of us is the potential to move mountains and build great empires. I think you are capable of great things. You are capable of rebuilding homes for earthquake victims, or for contributing to ending world hunger and conflict. I think you are also capable of small things which are no less great. You are capable of changing someone&#8217;s life for the better, you are capable of cheering.someone up after a horrible day at work.</p>
<p>You are also capable of great things in your own life. Within you lies the strength to overcome any addiction. Within you lies the strength to achieve goals beyond your wildest dreams. Within you lies the power to build megastructures, execute the most complex of dances, and perform brain surgery.</p>
<p>That power within you is so intense, so unpredictable, and so powerful, that it is only fitting to call you a walking, talking bomb.  In fact, there are only two differences between you and an actual bomb. The first, is that unlike a bomb which consists of purely destructive energy, your energy can be completely constructive and positive. And the second, is that unlike a bomb that only goes off once and then ceases to exist, you can explode and impact the world around you countless times in your life.</p>
<p>You, my friend, are the bomb.</p>


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		<description><![CDATA[When I first entered college, and I was being given an introduction to the different majors available, my first question once my guide had finished talking was &#8220;Can I take all five?&#8221;. Looking back now, it seems like a hilarious thing to even consider (one major alone had enough hours in it to kill a [...]


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I first entered college, and I was being given an introduction to the different majors available, my first question once my guide had finished talking was &#8220;Can I take all five?&#8221;. Looking back now, it seems like a hilarious thing to even consider (one major alone had enough hours in it to kill a small animal), but I can sort of understand why I was thinking that. You see, I love design, but in a general sense. Even now the five majors (advertising and graphic design, illustration, animation, multimedia, and interior design) still pull at me with equal strength. I ended up going into advertising and graphic design, but for a very specific reason: I want to develop a design mindset in myself.</p>
<p><b>What is a design mindset?</b></p>
<p>Like many things in the design lexicon, &#8216;design mindset&#8217; is a term that is very much open to interpretation. I can probably tell you that if you ask me what a design mindset is, I would give you a different answer 3 years ago than I would have today, and 3 years down the road my answer would be completely different again. Even while searching the web for some reading material while writing this post, I came across completely different ideas regarding design thinking and the design mindset. I can only hope to give you my version of it, and to hear yours.</p>
<p>A design mindset is a way of thinking that continuously evolves, changes, and adapts. It is based on a series of principles most commonly found and practiced in the design industry (thus earning it its name), but is not exclusive to the design industry. The main points of design thinking can be summarized as follows:</p>
<p>1) Practicing a methodology that involves identifying the problem, issue, or question at hand, and approaching it from various perspectives.</p>
<p>2) Allowing any idea, regardless of quality, to appear on the table before it is judged.</p>
<p>3) Taking risks with approaches and solutions that have never been applied or attempted before.</p>
<p>4) Continuously striving to improve upon a current situation or condition, in an endless cycle.</p>
<p><b>How is a design mindset important in my life?</b></p>
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<p>An excellent question. In fact, promoting design thinking in daily life is one of the main reasons I started this blog. A design mindset is important in your life because <b>your life is a product of your design</b>. Just like your car, or your clothes, your life is the result of the various choices, improvements, and mistakes that you have made so far. But most people don&#8217;t realize this and allow their lives to run on autopilot, just leaving it as it is. But think about it: if Nike had let their products remain as they were, the World Cup would have been played in t-shirts and sandals. Implementing design thinking into your life will allow you to continuously improve your quality of life, as well as to critically and objectively analyze your life, to find areas in which you can become a better person.</p>
<p>So what principles of design thinking can be used in daily life? I&#8217;ve listed 8 that I try my best to live my life by, but take note that these are far from an exhaustive list, and even within these 8 I bet opinions are going to differ.</p>
<p><b>There is no limit to learning.</b></p>
<p>I&#8217;ve encountered it in hundreds of people, yet it still bewilders me each time I do so: meeting a person who thinks his/her learning days are over once he/she reaches a certain age. A person can spend his entire life learning new things, and yet he/she will never reach omniscience. Even more so when you consider the ever-changing nature of science and technology. Like how constantly updating your design knowledge will help your designs stay fresh and unique, opening yourself up to learning something new every day is great for your spiritual and mental health.</p>
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<p><b>For every problem, there is a solution.</b></p>
<p>Repeat after me: <i>There is NO SUCH THING as an unsolvable problem</i>. </p>
<p>Design thinking has overcome the most challenging of problems in the past. Millions of pages worth of data stored in a tiny chip no bigger than a button? Done. A convenient way to fasten and unfasten fabric? Hello, zipper. </p>
<p>If a solution doesn&#8217;t exist for your problem, it just means that one hasn&#8217;t been created yet. If so, what are you waiting for?</p>
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<p><b>And for every solution, there will be a problem. </b></p>
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<p>How many times have you experienced this one? You have a major breakthrough at work, only to find that your solution created another problem further ahead. While sometimes the problem that appears may not be the direct result of the solution, it always seems like there&#8217;s one more obstacle in your way than you have the energy to overcome. </p>
<p>The key to controlling this is to understand that this is simply nature&#8217;s love of balance working here. Don&#8217;t think of it as new problems, but instead as new questions to ponder, and new challenges to conquer, and you&#8217;ll soon realize that every problem that crops up in your path only serves to motivate you further.</p>
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<p><b>You are your loudest audience.</b></p>
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<p>You are your biggest fan, and you are your strongest critic. The one person who will most appreciate your achievements will be you, as will the one person who is most critical and harsh regarding your failures or mistakes. It is a natural fact of life. The reason behind this is simple: <i>the person who pays the most attention to you, is you</i>. Understanding this and accepting this is a vital key in improving your self-confidence and personal image. </p>
<p>Don&#8217;t be afraid to try new things, or to do things that seem silly. It may seem like everybody would laugh at you, but in reality, they have much better things to do than to circle around you and wait for you to fall. In fact, they may be supportive of your risks, and you may even end up inspiring them to take some risks themselves. It&#8217;s your life, and what you want to do with it is what counts. </p>
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<p><b>No one key works for every lock.</b></p>
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<p>Bob the Colleague finds yoga to be his outlet. Since he started going for yoga classes, you find him to be happier, calmer, healthier, and much nicer to be around. So you try it yourself. After a few awkward balancing poses and muttered swears, you arrive at the office the next day with a snappy temper and a sore side. What happened?</p>
<p>It may seem obvious when you look at it from a third person&#8217;s perspective, but it&#8217;s not always so clear when you&#8217;re going through the problem yourself. What works for one person may not always work for you. It&#8217;s great that you&#8217;ve tried it out, and you&#8217;ve found that it isn&#8217;t helping. Accept that, and try something else. Perhaps pole-dancing would give you the same calmness that Bob gets from yoga. Hey, it&#8217;s worth a shot, right? Which brings me to my next point.</p>
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<p><b>Judgment does not come before a trial.</b></p>
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<p>The courtrooms have it right: don&#8217;t judge something before you try it. Pole-dancing may seem like a bizarre thing to try, and really, if you&#8217;re a guy, you&#8217;d probably rather <i>be </i>the pole that be wrapped around it. </p>
<p>But you&#8217;re never going to find out what it can do for you unless you try it yourself. You don&#8217;t have to commit to anything yet. If you&#8217;re taking a physical class like pole-dancing or yoga, try looking for an option to try one class, or even for a one-time workshop. Thinking of studying a language? Pick up a phrase book and start pronouncing the words, and think of how it makes you feel. And while there&#8217;s no workshop or trial option for a career change, perhaps you could take a few days off and experience aspects of your new career (like being a professional shopper, or an artist). </p>
<p>Prepare for these one-time experiences by telling yourself that you are going to accept every experience that happens to you during this time, good or bad. You are here to try something new, and with that comes the acceptance that it doesn&#8217;t always work out. </p>
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<p><b>If you can&#8217;t see, try changing glasses.</b></p>
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<p>Persistence is a virtue often praised. After all, if at first you don&#8217;t succeed, you are told to try and try again. But sometimes, it just doesn&#8217;t work, and it only results in frustration, and in certain cases you could even burn out.</p>
<p>Try tackling the issue from a different angle. See it from another person&#8217;s point of view. You&#8217;ll begin to notice aspects of this issue that you would have never seen otherwise. Again, an open mind is vital here, because if you keep insisting that your way is right, you&#8217;re never going to learn anything new.</p>
<p>This idea of different perspectives can also be applied when you have an idea. Even the most analytical of us will be biased to our own ideas. Forcing yourself to look at your own ideas from an external perspective will highlight flaws and points of improvement that you would have otherwise been oblivious to.</p>
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<p><b>Enjoy the journey, and you will enjoy the destination.</b></p>
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<p>In Robin Sharma&#8217;s book &#8220;The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari&#8221;, the main character asks his newly-enlightened friend regarding the final goal of this new, spiritually wholesome life. I forget the exact words the friend used to reply, but it was something like this: &#8220;If you keep one eye on the horizon, only one eye is enjoying the road.&#8221; Today, I was in a bookstore, flipping through a book on meditation, where they advise the reader to &#8220;meditate not for the benefits it can bring in the end, but for the benefits you get from each meditation.&#8221;</p>
<p>Both touch on the same meaning: in any journey, the destination only holds part of the value. There is real experience and value to be gained during the journey itself. And this is doubly important if you are doing something that involves long periods of effort or discipline, like getting fit or studying. It&#8217;s always good to focus on your final goal, but the truth is that most of us end up focusing on the entire stretch of road that is between us and that goal. Try instead to focus on the journey. Learn for the sake of learning. Pick up a musical instrument not because you want to wow your friends (although having that as a final goal is perfectly acceptable), but because you like the sound of the instrument, and because you want to try playing a particular piece of music. When you focus on the journey, your development and learning rate seems to accelerate rapidly, and pretty soon you&#8217;ll be amazing your friends with a world-class bongo drum performance.</p>
<p>Since this is an issue that I strongly relate to, I can probably go on for pages. However, I&#8217;d much rather hear your perspective (see what I did there?) about this. What are some of the things you do in your life that you think qualifies as &#8216;design thinking&#8217;?</p>


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		<description><![CDATA[I was recently reading a very inspiring post by Oscar at Freestyle Mind entitled '27 Traits of Successful People'. What really struck me in that list, and what I'd like to talk to everyone about, is No. 7. 

They smile.


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<p>I was recently reading a very inspiring post by Oscar at Freestyle Mind entitled &#8216;<a href="http://www.freestylemind.com/successful-people-traits/">27 Traits of Successful People</a>&#8216;. I highly recommend everyone who wants to be someone (and that should be all of you reading my blog anyway :) ) to print out that list and put it in a place that you&#8217;ll see it often. Make a pop-up card on your desk, pin it up in your cubicle, or stick it on the fridge.</p>
<p>What really struck me in that list, and what I&#8217;d like to talk to everyone about, is No. 7.</p>
<p><strong>They smile.</strong></p>
<p>According to Oscar, successful people &#8220;smile often and genuinely to rise positiveness and build strong relationships&#8221; and I agree with that 100%. I&#8217;ve found that I can always get a better response from people, whether it&#8217;s faster service, a cheerier waiter, or even an uplifting conversation in the elevator up to the office, by just smiling. A smile is a way to ease anxiety, discomfort, and worry, and also to build trust.</p>
<p><subhead>When the mask cracks.</subhead></p>
<p>Let&#8217;s face it. It&#8217;s not always easy to smile. Sometimes the whole day is just out to get you. Sometimes Bob the Co-Worker takes credit for your work. Sometimes your kids greet you at the front door with complaints about who broke who&#8217;s toy. And while you can hope that the sounds coming from the washing machine is your laundry doing itself, you just know it&#8217;s little Fido the puppy ripping the paint job to bits with his claws.</p>
<p>So what do you do on days like those? It&#8217;s a Catch-22 situation. Things would be better, or at least look it, if you smiled, but you&#8217;re not smiling because things don&#8217;t look good in the first place. If left alone, the situation will only get spiral even worse.</p>
<p>So here are some quick-fixes for you to smile and make that spiral one that is positive, uplifting, and energetic.</p>
<p><strong>1) See funny shapes, even in storm clouds.<br />
</strong>Every situation has a potential for humour. Just think about all the comedies you&#8217;ve ever seen. Not all of them are about people having fun. Some people get hurt, some people get bullied, and if you&#8217;re a South Park fan, even death can be a humorous thing. Imagine yourself as a character in your favourite show. Your ridiculous deadline, your tough boss, your annoying co-worker, everything, toss it into the scene. And imagine someone watching you. Imagine that person having the time of his life watching you. Imagine him with that great big smile on his face.</p>
<p>You&#8217;re smiling now, aren&#8217;t you? That&#8217;s because smiling is infectious. Once you realised that you&#8217;ve made someone else smile, you&#8217;ll realise that it&#8217;s not very hard to smile about the same scenario. You&#8217;re going to have to face all of that anyway, so why not get a few giggles out of it?</p>
<p><strong>2) Fake it until you make it.<br />
</strong>Yes, it&#8217;s a popular mantra used in psychology. Patients are taught to act brave, or confident, or calm, until that act enforces a more natural counterpart. You&#8217;ve definitely felt it before. Acting jolly in front of kids boosts your spirit, while acting polite and gentle with the elderly immediately makes you feel more mild-mannered.</p>
<p>The exact same principle applies to smiling and being happy. While you may think it looks silly to force a smile on your face, the truth is very few people will guess that it&#8217;s fake. And once you see the effects of your fake smile, your real smile will come naturally. Bob the Annoying Co-Worker is suddenly less sure of his footing with you, making you feel more powerful. Fido&#8217;s running to sit down and nuzzle beside you instead of cowering in terror under the couch. And your kids feel so much more connected to you instead of being afraid to tell you things.</p>
<p><strong>3) Sketch, sway, and sing your way.</strong><br />
I thank my lucky stars every time I draw that I was gifted with not only a way to express myself, but a way to make a living doing so. And as you&#8217;ll no doubt agree, not everyone is so lucky.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean that you can&#8217;t call on some creative drive when you need it. I don&#8217;t need to quote studies that relate self-expression to mood, do I? Anyone who has doodled on notepads, sung at karaokes, or simply busted a few moves when no one was watching already knows the effect it has. And really, you don&#8217;t need to do it well. In fact, the worse you do it, the more fun you&#8217;ll probably have.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re feeling down right now, and need a slight boost to your happiness, or you&#8217;re just looking for another reason to smile, try these tips out. You&#8217;ll find that the day gets just a little more colourful and a little brighter.</p>


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